The ONE reason why you need to ask for help

Sometimes we just have to ask for help

Historically women have been seen as the core or strength of a nation.  Even today we can see some cultures  where women are often seen as the bread winners, the money dealers and handlers or the person that gels the fabric of the village together.

  

Women or mamas are the dongs of the nation. 

We bear children, raise, teach and inspire a generation.  No this is not male put down as you guys do this too, but this article is about women and as I write this I see above me a humongous task before me. No pressure MC 😰

But, in today’s landscape this enormous task comes with additional disparities thrown at us.

Work life balance’s a bitch

We see the struggle of women in the work place – trying to navigate the inequalities of pay compared to their male counterparts. And sometimes our younger females or childless colleagues.

At recent study done by friend and mummy coach Sue of Mum to Mum coaching saw that of the mums she surveyed  anmums returning to work after maternity leave a whooping “14% felt invested in by their company”.

Then you have the pressures of looking the part, raising your children and having a home to die for – is this even real… Then the fast pace of technology and constant comparison of the Insta famous and ME, NOW consumerism, brings a desire to have it all, do it and to do it all NOW.

Get rich quick or die trying

If we sit down and look at this in its entirety, we can see this is quite an impossible task. We are almost certainly going to fail.

I always use this term and forgive if you keep seeing this in my post but Rome was not built in a day nor was it built alone.  Rather on the sweat, blood and tears of nations.  Note NATIONS.  The Romans enslaved a whole bunch of people and tribes, then used them to build roads, buildings, irrigation systems the lot.

We’re only human.

And we’ve been designed very simply to do ONE thing at a time.  There were either hunters or gatherers not hunters, hunting and gathering at the same time.  They were also hunting within a season, but that’s another discussion for another time.

The number one reason you need to ask for help as a busy mama

At times even having the ability to get the front door on time is an effort. We simply cannot do it all the time by ourselves.  It’s impossible and unrealistic and only leads to stress, resentment and unhappiness.

Some of the things I ask help for.

I very frequently ask for child care help from my mum and sisters.  I blatantly ask my sisters what they are doing for during school breaks.  “Who wants Eli for the day, week, month or year?”

I’m always asking my partner to get out of the house for the day.  Well I prepare outdoor adventures for them so they are out of the house so i can think, plan and do or just be.  I’ve an endless list of things that I ask him and my family members for or to do.

Go even further…

Recently though, I’ve branched out and have started asking my friends for help with my business.  A while back I approached my friend and asked for her help to borrow her long legs on a shoot.  I asked her to bring her dog and we spent an hour shooting my backpacks so that I could start providing my customers will an idea of how my backpacks look when out and about.

Going where no man has gone before.

I’ve started and this is bold asking my friends to meet for coffee so o that I can share discuss ideas regarding my projects and plans.  I’ve become shameless about asking for help.

It’s not just about asking for help, but it’s about giving back as well.

We have to show our children, that we are (at times) rational, human beings.  We need to show them by word and in fact actions.  We need to show that to understand their limitations.   We need to teach them to not try to perfect everything every times or any time.

How we really show our children.

We’re really instructing and showing our children on all levels the art of negotiating, instead of just whining that we need a break or help or a holiday.  Guilty here…  We need to start showing our children that we are team players and can loving release some of our mental / work load.   We need to show the next generation that no women or man is an island and the its the beauty in sharing, caring, collaborating and helping that makes the magic work.

So ladies, get practising – let sing dance this with TLC and not be too proud to ask for help from our friends or family members.

We would love to know the last time you asked for help?  Why did you?  How did it feel?  Let me know in the comments below.

 

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We at Nariva Boutique truly believe in community, it take a village and that exactly what we have created and why we strive to connect with as many busy women, mamas, aunties, nanas as possible.
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Our village is made out of women of different ages, shades, backgrounds and cities. Our village is called the Nariva Boutique community.
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Our mission is to encourage our community to take it easy. It sounds easy right, but It’s not…how can something like living light, more freely, connecting with ourselves and finding the joy in the mundane be hard?😬

We share our Fri’yay tips email every Thursday, where we share short burst of content to make you smile and laugh, we share stories about the little things in life – you know the ones we sometimes forget. We remind you to skip or dance or pull a funny face for the weekend. We urge you to hug a tree (joke – but this is seriously good for you).
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More importantly we listen and love to share.
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Side note the other stuff, we often share hot of the press stuff, so that you’re always the first to know about our products and services. We sometimes send you Amazon or John Lewis gift vouchers… or bag of Haribos.
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So come #takeaseat at the table, join our village as it really does take a village to move like-minded, creative, women to completely rock out and be the very best that they were born to be.✅💋💕